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    Bibliotherapy is a therapeutic approach that uses books to support good mental health, is a cost-effective treatment option often adapted to types of therapy.
    Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook by Lawson How to be Yourself by Hendriksen

    Anxiety


    “We are a package deal, however. Our trait of sensitivity means we will also be cautious, inward, needing extra time alone. Because people without the trait (the majority) do not understand that, they see us as timid, shy, weak, or that greatest sin of all, unsociable. Fearing these labels, we try to be like others. But that leads to our becoming overaroused and distressed. Then that gets us labeled neurotic or crazy, first by others and then by ourselves.”
    ― Elaine N. Aron, The Highly Sensitive Person

    Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook by Lawson How to be Yourself by Hendriksen

    OCD


    “Having OCD has made me a more intense, sensitive, and compassionate human being. I have been humbled by my disorder. It has built character even while tearing at my soul, my heart, and my self-esteem. It has enabled me to fight harder, to strive for the good and the truth inside me. It has made me less critical and judgmental of others who suffer in their lives.”
    ― Jeffrey M. Schwartz, Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior

    Relationships


    “Most people are only as needy as their unmet needs.”
    ― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

    “Recovery from codependence is a lot like a growing up process – we must learn to do the things our dysfunctional parents did not teach us to do: appropriately esteem ourselves, set functional boundaries, be aware of and acknowledge our reality, take care of our adult needs and wants, and experience our reality moderately.”
    ― Pia Mellody, Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

    “When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.”
    ― Henry Cloud, Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How to Say No

    Marital & Premarital


    “But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I call an emotionally intelligent marriage.”
    ― John M. Gottman, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

    “If I appeal to you for emotional connection and you respond intellectually to a problem, rather than directly to me, on an attachment level I will experience that as “no response.” This is one of the reasons that the research on social support uniformly states that people want “indirect” support, that is, emotional confirmation and caring from their partners, rather than advice.”
    ― Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships

    “In our consumer culture, we always want the next best thing: the latest, the newest, the youngest. Failing that, we at least want more: more intensity, more variety, more stimulation. We seek instant gratification and are increasingly intolerant of any frustration. Nowhere are we encouraged to be satisfied with what we have, to think, “this is good. This is enough.”
    ― Esther Perel, Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

    “The “symptom” theory goes as follows: An affair simply alerts us to a preexisting condition, either a troubled relationship or a troubled person.”
    ― Esther Perel, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

    Trauma


    “The emotions, traits, and behaviors we reject in our parents will likely live on in us. It’s our unconscious way of loving them, a way to bring them back into our lives.”
    ― Mark Wolynn, It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

    “As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.”
    ― Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

    Parenting


    “As children develop, their brains “mirror” their parent’s brain. In other words, the parent’s own growth and development, or lack of those, impact the child’s brain. As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy, their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well.”
    ― Daniel J. Siegel, The Whole-Brain Child

    “Creating stories through play, and presumably through our dreams, may be ways in which the mind attempts to “make sense” of our experiences and consolidate this understanding into a picture of our selves in the world.”
    ― Daniel J. Siegel, Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive

    Break Ups


    “Creating mysteries and conspiracies where none exist is a common response to romantic breakups. Our mind unconsciously assumes that if the emotional pain we feel is so dramatic, it must have an equally dramatic cause, even when it does not.”
    ― Guy Winch, How to Fix a Broken Heart

    “Relationships are living things—they require tending. Like plants, they flourish when they are cared for. Our ended relationships remind us of how much nurturing was withheld, how many resentments piled up, how much communication never occurred, how many needs went unfulfilled. They challenge us to see how we were lazy last time and what we must do differently in order to cultivate our next relationship.”
    ― Daphne Rose Kingma, Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours